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Potty Training Boys: Do You Teach Standing Up Or Sitting Down?

 

darran-shen-477150.jpgTraining children for bladder control before bowel control is often easier for quite a few reasons:  More frequent bathroom trips = more opportunities for success, digestion and diet issues don’t stall success,  and urination is usually a painless, phobia-free, and quick experience.  In general, families that hire me as a consultant are encouraged to consider bladder training to be the first mountain to conquer.

But should little boys sit or stand to do the deal?  After a child has been sitting on the potty, understands it’s use, and has consistent success, I will encourage parents to have their sons stand to urinate.  But it isn’t as simple as that.  There are pros and cons.

First, the pros of standing to urinate:

  • little boys have probably seen their brothers, cousins and dad use the toilet, and most children want to copy their same-gender parent.  This is often more motivation to become independent in the bathroom.
  • young children may be a little more mindful of why they are standing in front of the toilet.  Children that are sitting have a harder time seeing what is happening and can get distracted. I know, I know, even the “big boys” can have terrible aim.  But children need all the help they can get to stay focused.
  • improving aim is motivation to use the toilet.  I wrote a blog post on using targets to teach boys to improve their accuracy and build interest in toileting.Piddlers Make Potty Training Fun!  These really work!

And now the cons:

  • See the item about distractibility under “pros”.  Some boys are so distracted that sitting on an toilet seat insert with a splash guard is the only way to prevent spraying the bathroom and any supervising adult.
  • Some children will start out urinating and begin to have a bowel movement concurrently.  Oops!  These children often have issues with low tone or digestive problems, and cannot “hold it” long enough to finish urinating and then sit on the toilet to have a bowel movement.  If they have an accident, it could be very upsetting to them and make them less eager to be fully trained.
  • Children with low muscle tone or postural stability issues may need to sit to achieve a safe and stable position.  No one can eliminate when they are unsteady or fearful.

Some children are vocal and clearly tell you what they want to do and why.  Some cannot or will not communicate, but you can figure out what they are thinking.  Some need to be encouraged to give standing a try.  If your son was initially interested and now has lost some of his enthusiasm and is still sitting to urinate, try telling him that it is time to stand like the big guys and see if you can regain some of your momentum in toilet training!

For more information on toilet training children with low muscle tone, check out my other posts such as   Low Tone and Toilet Training: The 4 Types of Training Readiness   as well as my useful e-book.  Here is a post that explains why this unique book will help you move forward with training right away! The Practical Guide to Toilet Training Your Child With Low Muscle Tone: Potty Training Help Has Arrived!

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Piddlers Make Potty Training Fun!

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Your son will eagerly run for potty time!

I laughed out loud the first time I saw a toddler pee onto one of these circles.  Then he asked for more juice so that he could come back later and try again!

Piddlers aren’t a new concept.  Parents have been tossing cereal circles into a potty for “aiming practice” for a long time.  These commercially-made circles are just easier to aim for, dissolve more, and clean up easily.  Cereal has a funny way of bouncing around in the toilet, making it more frustrating, not as successful and not as much fun.

Getting children motivated to use the toilet can be a big headache.  For every totally cooperative toddler, there are 5 more that are defiant or simply uninterested.  They just won’t “go”.  Piddlers may not be a total answer, but they can get your son over these barriers to skill development.  Once a child is successful and has a routine, things are so much better!

Little boys have to control their aim if they are going to urinate standing up.  This is a totally new concept for them, and a skill.  Yes, a skill.  Since they have been using a diaper for elimination from the day they came home from the hospital, toilet training is a completely foreign concept, from beginning to end.  It’s a little bit funny: mostly the mommies are in control of toilet training, but only brothers, cousins and daddies can demo this particular skill.   Read Low Tone and Toilet Training: Kids Need To See How It’s Done to understand why a live performance can jump-start your child’s comprehension of toilet use.

Piddlers are made of starch and food coloring, and won’t turn anything blue or orange.  You may not even need the whole package!  Once a child has success and has developed a routine, explain that you need to go to the store later to buy more (not really), but he can use the potty right now anyway without one or two Piddlers in the potty.  Eventually you won’t need Piddlers any more, but you will have a little boy that is paying attention to what he is doing in the bathroom!

Great News!  My book, The Practical Guide to Toilet Training Your Child With Low Muscle Tone, is now available as an e-book on my website, tranquil babies .  Just click the “e-book” section on the top ribbon to get your copy.  

Don’t think your child is ready for toilet training?  You need this book more than the parents of kids that are struggling with training!  Knowing how to prepare your child and yourself before you start training can make all the difference.  My book will explain in detail what you need to know and how you can start developing potty skills…today!