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Toilet Training? Your Child Needs the Right Shorts!

 

In my first e-book, The Practical Guide to Toilet Training Your Child With Low Muscle Tone, I wrote almost a full chapter just on clothing management.  If your child needs you to pull clothing on and off, they are NOT fully trained.  And if they have clothes that make it impossible for them to manage, you are holding them back from feeling like a real success.

Target has your back!

Yes, the same place you go for their swimsuits, toilet paper, and hand soap.  Target sells a cheap pair of shorts that children can easily pull down and back up again.  Their Cat and Jack line is pretty inexpensive, which is helpful when you know that you will be going through a few pair of shorts per day due to accidents.  They are soft to the touch for kids with sensory sensitivities, and they do have a drawstring waist if you have one of those kids whose shorts slide off their tush.  But remember that if you knot it, your kid won’t be able to slide their shorts off easily.  Better to buy a smaller size.

I would pair these with a T-shirt that ends close to their natural waist.  A longer top will get in the way during bathroom use.  You want to give your child every chance to have a positive experience, and peeing on your clothing by accident isn’t a positive!

Here is a link to a post on dressing skills: Low Muscle Tone and Dressing: Easy Solutions to Teach Independence

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Toilet Training Has It’s Costs: Don’t Be Shocked

 

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In speaking with families about their worries in anticipation of toilet training, one of the issues that rarely comes up are it’s costs.  Sure, everyone laughs about the vacation they will take when they no longer buy diapers or pull-ups.  Those huge boxes from Costco don’t come cheap.  But there are costs during the training process that are only vaguely anticipated.  Be sure that you are ready for them too!

Clothes and Underwear.  Children may need a new wardrobe.  The first reason is that a child will not be able to get those teeny hipster jeans off fast enough to pee or poop.  They move faster in wide-waisted sweats.  The second reason is that you will need multiple pairs of underwear and possibly even other clothes.  The teddy bear may wear one pair as a motivator, you may use two pair as thick training pants down the road, and then there are all the small accidents that leave your child smelling less-than-fresh.  Time to change.  The last reason is that accidents happen anyway, and some clothing is going to be so soiled that “Super-Tide” or whatever you are using just cannot handle the stains.  Into the trash they go.

Wipes, flushable and not.  One of my oldest friends says that flushable wet wipes saved her life during training.  They aren’t cheap, and kids start out taking a handful, as if they were going to wipe down the whole bathroom, not just their little tushie.  You will need to stock your go-bag with wipes as well, for trips outside the home.  And of course you may still need the non-flushable ones to help them clean things up.

Carpets, etc.  If you do a Training Intensive, sometimes known as Potty Boot Camp, there will be accidents, guaranteed.  Even with a Gradual Start approach, accidents happen.  Sometimes on a tile floor (good), and sometimes on the carpet or the couch (bad).  Some things can be cleaned and some will need professional help.  Or replacement.  Be prepared.

Time and Attention.  The most precious commodities of all to parents are their time and attention.  Developing an awareness of when your child is most likely to eliminate, making it a priority to get them to the toilet for a successful attempt, and even making sure they “go” before you leave for the store is a completely different use of time from the days when you slapped a fresh diaper on them and ran out the door.  Kids take a while on the potty, and this process will consume your time and attention until they are completely trained.  Some trained preschoolers still need you to wipe them effectively, well past 4!  Again, your time and attention is required.

If this list has you backpedaling on the idea of training, thinking that it is better to delay it until they are so old that they learn in a few days, I might mention that if you miss the wonderful window of physical readiness combined with cooperation/response to praise and rewards, you may have to wait a long time.  Kids that aren’t trained, but now get stuck in the power struggle common to the 2.5-4 year-old range, realize what power withholding wields over adults.  So much less attractive than a 24 month-old who sweetly accepts their treat for a job well done!

Looking for more information?  Take a look at some of my other posts on toilet training, such as  Is Slow Progress In Toilet Training A Failure?    If your child has special needs, this might be of interest Why Do Some Kids With ASD and SPD Refuse Toilet Training?.

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