As an occupational therapist, I have always found it difficult to recommend a toddler ride-on toy for younger or smaller kids with low muscle tone and hypermobility. Most of these toys have such a wide seat that children must propel themselves with their knees rotated out and pushing forward on their toes. Exactly the pattern of movement we DON’T want to see.
And then I saw the Fly Bike. This little fold-up bike has a seat that is about 9.5 inches high and has a very narrow seat. This allows a child’s feet to be aligned with their hips, facilitating the development of hip and trunk control, not substituting bending forward and back to propel the toy.
The textured seat helps grip a child’s clothing for a little extra stability, and the small handlebars mean children aren’t draping their chest over the front of the toy; they are holding onto the handlebars with their hands. Brilliant. The rubber wheels are kind to indoor floors, but can handle pavement easily.
Are there children that don’t fit this toy? Absolutely. If your child is too tall for this toy, they shouldn’t use it. If your child cannot maintain adequate sitting balance independently on this toy, they may need more support from another style of ride-on toy, perhaps with a larger seat and a backplate.
I finally have a great ride-on toy that I can recommend for smaller kids. An early Xmas present to me and my little clients!
Anyone that knows the board book Goodnight, Goodnight, Construction Site should run right out and get this one for next week. OK, maybe you won’t be able to wait that long. Read it when you get it home! An absolutely read it before your young child goes to bed on Christmas Eve! Santa will wait a little longer for his cookies and milk.
The graphics are just detailed enough, but not so complex that most 2 year-olds can’t figure out what is going on. There is some repetition so they can keep up with the story, but older kids can follow the concepts of kindness and caring in relationships. The rhyming text is terrific for kids learning phonics. Rhyming has been working out well for audiences of all ages, even before Shakespeare’s iambic pentameter. Works for me, too! This is a fun book for parents to read out loud, which is good because you will be reading it over and over, night after night, long after the decorations are packed away.
The construction vehicles in the story end up building a new fire house for the fire engines, but they get some treats for themselves as well. It is a happy story with a lot of warmth and a wonderful chance to talk about how good it feels to give.
Enjoy this fun little book during the holiday season!
My clients and colleagues know how much I love the original Water Wow books. They are reusable and mess-free fun for kids at home, at the doctor’s office, the restaurant and the plane ride. These bigger books are going to be even more fun for preschool kids and kindergarteners!
Here are some great reasons why I love these books:
They have more pages, and more pages means they keep kids busy (and happy) longer.
They offer more detail and more challenge. The graphics inspire critical thought (Is this a silly thing to find in the supermarket or not?) and the red lens that looks like a magnifying glass makes kids feel like Sherlock Holmes as they search for secret items.
There are mazes, hidden items and pages where kids can compare two almost-identical pictures and find the anomalies. It is more than just wiping water on a picture.
Like the originals, the pages dry quickly and can be used over and over. It seems like kids would get bored after the first run-through, but children can enjoy the “reveal” and the sensory play of water on a page for a long time after they have solved all the puzzles. If you are at 30K feet and your kid is getting restless, this could buy you a bit of time without having to resort to screens that they will insist on for the rest of the (expensive) trip. Genius.
Oh, and the pen is easy to grasp, and it develops a mature pencil grasp with repeated use. Yeah!
This set is one of my favorite choices for toddlers of all ages and interests. Why? It is a safe, fun, clean-able toy that doesn’t require a USB connection or a battery. That isn’t a complete oddity, but it getting more rare every year. This toy is a great choice for kids with ASD, SPD, low muscle tone and hypermobility. And children will play with it for years. I like recommending toys that have the possibility of wearing out before they are thrown out.
In this age of edible pouches and pre-cut meal packages, your child might not realize that corn comes on a cob, or that there is a purple food; eggplant. Learning about food through play is a wonderful way to introduce food preparation and an interest in healthy food choices.
Let’s unpack the benefits of this great set:
The theme is food; familiar and fun for most kids. It encourages imaginative play and can be used by more than one child at a time.
The materials are lightweight and easy to clean. The food toys made of wood sound so great, so holistic …until your toddler has chucked one into the flat screen TV in your family room! Or at his sister’s head! And for kids who lick or suck on toys, well, I don’t think most kids should be consuming paint. I’d prefer it if kids didn’t lick toys, but lots of them do from time to time. Plastic is a better choice for kids with a weak grasp as well. Some children will revert to an immature or atypical grasp on a heavy object but can sustain a mature grasp on a lightweight item.
Different ages can enjoy this toy. Very young toddlers simply connect and disconnect the velcro pieces. Slightly older kids can practice color matching, and preschool kids can practice cutting with the super-safe knife in the set. Even older kids can create elaborate pretend play. I have had three and four year-olds preparing a pretend Shabbos meal, using a Kleenex to cover the bread. Adorable!
The shapes are primarily cylinders and spheres. Why is that good for motor development? The arches in the hand are developed by hand use, and grasping these shapes encourages the use of the intrinsic muscles, deep in the palm of the hand. Along with the thumb muscles and some of the hand muscles that originate in the forearm, these are the muscles needed to achieve the support necessary for skilled hand use.
A hint for use with the smallest kids; don’t match the shapes. Match contrasting colors and shapes so that it is easier for children to figure out where to place their fingers to assemble and separate the pieces.
A hint for kids with a weak grasp of sensory discrimination issues: Offer them the most textured shapes. The irregular textures will help them maintain their grasp as they pull or push.
For children with either low muscle tone or spasticity, toilet training can be a real challenge. If it isn’t clothing management or making it to the potty on time, they can have a hard time perceiving that NOW is the time to start heading to the toilet.
Why? Often, their interoception isn’t terrific. What is interoception? Think of it like proprioception, but internal. It’s the ability to identify and interpret sensory information coming from organs and internal tissues. Among them, the pressure of a full bladder or a full colon. If you can’t feel and interpret sensation correctly, your only clue that you need the potty is when your pants are soiled. Uh-oh. A child with muscle tone issues is almost certainly going to have sensory issues. Tone will affect the amount and quality of sensory feedback from their body.
What can you do to help kids? The simplest, and the fastest solution I have found, is to tell them to stand up and see if they have changed their mind. Why? Because in a sitting position, the force of a full bladder or colon on the abdominal wall and the pelvic floor isn’t as intense. Gravity and intra-abdominal pressure increase those sensations in standing. More sensation can lead to more awareness.
So the next time your child tells you they don’t have to “go”, ask them to stand up and reconsider their opinion. Now, if they are trying to watch a show or play a game, you aren’t going to get very far. So make sure that they don’t have any competition for their attention!
I can’t take it any longer. If I hear one more professional on YouTube say that the difficulties begin when your child enters school, I am gonna cry. Real tears. For those younger kids. And their parents.
CNN just ran a story in which a psychologist suggested not telling kids that they are “that special”. To help them feel more like other kids. Well, I can tell you straight up that a child who feels empathy for the rocks and the kids in far-off countries, or who cannot tolerate the intense lighting or sounds in his classroom, is WAITING to understand why this is happening. Knowing that it is commonly a part of being gifted would be a relief, not a burden. But this professional might not know the range of experiences that giftedness brings, only the scores on the test.
Ask a parent of a gifted toddler how easy their life is, or how easy their child’s life is, and you will very often hear a tale of frustration and sometimes even exhaustion. The life of a super-quick mind at 1 and 2 isn’t all charming enrichment activities at the zoo and the museum. Sure, it isn’t as difficult as when they are 7 and have no friends to discuss paleontology with, or no one to play soccer with at 5 because their skills so exceed everyone else, but it is still not that easy.
Here are a few situations that make raising (and being) a very young gifted child a struggle that can be misinterpreted as temperament or developmental issues:
Gifted development is often extremely asynchronous at this age. Translation: “all over the place”. Gifted toddlers can be delayed in their motor skills and hugely advanced in their reasoning or language skills. Or the other way around. They can have sensory sensitivities that create tolerance issues to tags, lights, noise and more. Either way, it can be hard to be in a body that doesn’t match your mind. And hard to raise a child with asynchronous development. A child’s seemingly never-ending frustration about what they can’t accomplish and their strong skills that cannot be acted on make things tough at home and school. For example, a child that can read chapter books at 2.5 into the night, but needs to sleep for 10 hours so they aren’t angry and exhausted tomorrow is going to give you a real argument. Like a Supreme Court-level argument. Again and again, night after night. Gifted toddlers often like circle time because they get to answer questions, but they might refuse to participate in activities that they find boring. They are seen as oppositional or even assumed to be unable to participate, when if fact they find sticking cotton balls on paper silly.
Toys for typical young children anticipate normal, evenly displayed development. This means that the knobs on microscopes and the gears on building toys aren’t made for the toddler who can conceive of an amazing building. The toys they want aren’t great for them and they toys they can manage are not exciting. Unless….they take them apart or melt them down to make something else. OOPS!
Very young gifted children who are supposed to be developing social skills like sharing and cooperating are distinctly not motivated to do so with peers that are still non-verbal or have limited imaginative abilities. If they have access to older kids, they may be thrilled to have playmates a few years ahead of them, but if they don’t, they are more likely to avoid their peers. Parents are tasked with finding children that their gifted toddler can enjoy in play, and handle the questions from other parents about why their child simply “doesn’t like playing with my kid? That is beyond awkward. It sounds like boasting to a lot of people, but when your child is bored with his peers, it’s a real social problem for everybody!
Parents find the high energy level and interactional demands exhausting. Not all young gifted kids are like the Sheldon Cooper character on Big Bang Theory. Lots of gifted toddlers love to ask questions and discuss things, love to be active all day long. They aren’t old enough to roam the web or go to the library. They want your attention. Short naps and even short sleep cycles without any fatigue or behavior problems are one way to spot a gifted toddler. Those brains don’t always need as much sleep as typically developing kids. That means a lot more demands on parents and caregivers. If you have been dogged all day by a toddler that won’t let go of a discussion, you might wish (a bit) that your kid wasn’t so S-M-A-R-T!
Why don’t psychologists seem to get this? I am going to go out on a limb and say that unless they have raised their own gifted kids, they don’t interact with very young gifted kids in their clinics or research facilities. Until they can formally test them, they aren’t on the radar of these professionals. But it doesn’t mean they don’t exist. Out here in the real world, I treat about 3 toddlers that appear to be highly gifted each year. And I see what struggles they and their families go through.
I really like this set from LEGO. The DUPLO line is intended for children 18 months to 5 years old, but I think older kids will enjoy it as well when they combine pieces to make more complex designs.
The #1 reason I like this set is that the great majority of the pieces are easy to hold, easy to assemble, and hard to swallow. I encourage families to remove the smaller pieces until their child is not prone to putting small things in their mouth. But that still leaves so many pieces left for fun!
Young children struggle with asymmetrically-shaped pieces, so simple squares and rectangles are easier to manage. The larger squares with numbers on them are especially easy to hold; they fit securely into the palm of a toddler and provide surface area for them to place their fingers securely on the sides of the blocks as they put two together.
In addition, the colors and the numbers are great for early learning. Some of the families I work with get two sets and work on matching numbers and colors while they are working on grasp and coordination.
Oh, and the set is under $20 U.S. Nothing like a value to make me smile!!!